All men know that there is a crucial re-entry period that takes place as you arrive home from work. I believe that I speak for all men when I say that this is one of the most important moments of the day.
Your family is anxiously awaiting your arrival. The wife has a lot to download about her day at work or home, there are issues with the kids and stuff she needs you to take care of-add to this the noise and chaos of a busy household with kids, pets, laundry, dishes, dinner preparation and it's not unlike the return of the space shuttle-a lot of heat and intensity.
This is the danger zone-a man wages war at work all day and on the drive home he hopes to walk in and find.....the pleasant smell of his favorite dinner, the kids quietly doing homework or something constructive, his wife dressed fashionably looking smokin hot and a clean and well ordered home that communicates peace, comfort and ultimately safety-his castle away from the pressures of the work world. Desirable? Yes....Realistic? Probably not....
When encountering chaos on the domestic front this work-a-day warrior goes into battle mode....ordering the troops into action...he takes aim at this chaos as if it were his arch enemy...there will be no prisoners!
In every war there are casualties....in this war it's usually the wife and kids....killed by friendly fire from the guy who is called to protect and provide.
Been there, done that and I'll likely do it again. What's helped me from increasing the causality count?
First-addressing my unrealistic expectations....life is messy, kids need attention, pets are unruly and my wife gets as frazzled as I do. No one lives in a furniture showroom with their super model wife and calm children.
Second-retreating to the inner safety of my room with my princess...lots of things can wait but I need to connect with my wife. Sometimes we talk, other times we simply just lay down and rest....then I'm ready to re-engage with the whole family.
It's important what I do after I hit the door....