At times I find myself frustrated with results. Wether it's the lack of progress on a major project, a meeting that shoots the wheels off of my bus or a relationship that has become a beating rather than a blessing. When these things happen I'm faced with a choice.
Blame someone-after all it can't be me it must be them.
Look at the “system” that produced the results.
I wish I could say that I do the latter more often-if I did-I'd be lying. My first reaction (and I'm guessing yours) is to quickly find someone other than me to highlight as the reason behind my frustrations. It's not me it's you.
If I'm not getting the results I had hoped for and it's always someone else's fault-stop listening to me and anyone else who is quick to cue up the victim tapes. The problem is me-or at least my “system” of making decisions, handling time, doing relationships, living life and whatever else it is that I'm prone to complaining about.
The results you're getting are directly attributable to your “system” (actions, approach).
I'll grant that occasionally you'll run into a knucklehead or two who will toss you and others under the bus-even then there's a system for dealing with people like that.
When there are systems problems you always blame the players -Andy Stanley DRIVE 06
When there are systems problems you always blame the players
-Andy Stanley DRIVE 06